May is an exciting time in the garden, as flowers suddenly surge in height and spring flowers such as lilacs, irises and peonies fill the garden with colour. To be out in the garden is delightful and there are some rewarding things that will get your patch ready for summer.

Many perennials soar – though that puts them in danger of being beaten down by summer squalls. Resurrecting the fallen mess is rather disheartening, so stake them as soon as feasible.

While metal supports are durable and quick to insert, sticks and string must often be used. Be generous with the sticks, buying in canes if necessary.

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The eight biggest mistakes we make
when retiring

Psychologist and author Dr Denise Taylor says we shouldn’t sleepwalk into retirement, nor stop walking, just because everyone else has.

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The mistakes we make when retiring

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Hoarding money

Many clients tell me their biggest regret was spending too little when they were healthiest and most able to enjoy it.

Planning to rest

Boredom in retirement is misunderstood. It’s rarely about having nothing to do. It’s about having time without meaning.

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Not mentally preparing

People prepare financially and practically, but don’t do the psychological work of leaving well. 

Waiting to plan what’s next

Once the structure of work disappears, people can slip into a narrower way of being. Start sketching out possible paths at least two years ahead. Even rough ideas about what you might want to explore – creative projects, volunteering, learning.

DR DENISE TAYLOR

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Common mistakes she sees

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Not preparing as a couple

Discuss how much time you want together, and what kind of lives you’re moving towards, rather than assuming it will naturally align.

Trying to stay busy

Without noticing what drains your energy, activity becomes a way of bypassing the deeper adjustment.

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Treating it as an ending

People can find themselves psychologically stranded. Days begin to blur into one another.

Retiring because everyone else is

For a generation raised to expect retirement at a certain age, default timing can feel normal.

The timing is personal.

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The mistake is retiring without questioning whether that timing actually fits your own life. It ignores your relationship with work, your health and your finances.

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What to do

1For some a gradual shift is best like working fewer days or changing role, slowing down.

2Experiment before you leave. Taking a sabbatical or reducing hours can show you how retirement might feel.

3Prioritise a small number of meaningful anchors: one regular commitment, one place where you feel known and one activity.

4Slow it down psychologically – question default timing, resist expectations and ask yourself what kind of transition you are actually stepping into.

GLASTONBURY, ENGLAND - JUNE 30: Sir David Attenborough addresses the crowd on The Pyramid Stage during day five of Glastonbury Festival at Worthy Farm, Pilton on June 30, 2019 in Glastonbury, England. (Photo by Shirlaine Forrest/WireImage)Sir David Attenborough is estimated to have travelled almost two million miles in his career, and has visited 90 countries and all seven continents in his quest to enhance our understanding of nature (Photo: Shirlaine Forrest/WireImage)

SIR DAVID ATTENBOROUGH

The national treasure has celebrated his centenary

For all the inspiring insight into nature that Sir David Attenborough has given us, he has also shown us how to age well. 

Here, Chief Features Writer Kasia Delgado looks into his lifestyle, and the tips he’s shared to live to 100.

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Never retiring fully

Putting your feet up is all very well, but it’s very boring, isn’t it?

In the last two years alone, Attenborough has done voiceovers on a number of projects, including Wild London, and a National Geographic Disney film, Ocean.

Although his workload has remained high, he did acknowledge in 2017, that as he ages, he sometimes finds it harder to recall correct words as quickly as he did before.

Improving his diet

In his 90s, Attenborough has cut back on red meat, and begun eating an increasingly vegetarian diet.

Whether as he said, he “simply lost the taste” for meat, or whether it was an environmental or health reason, the NHS advises that eating a lot of red and processed meat increases your bowel cancer risk at any age.

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Keeping active

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Attenborough has previously said he has “never done exercise” in an official capacity.

But he has kept active by going for walks in Richmond, where he lives.

Interviewers who have been to his home have also mentioned him practically skipping down the stairs of his house.

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Avoiding becoming isolated

When Sir David’s wife Jane died in 1997, the couple’s adult daughter Susan moved in with her father. He said at the time: “I’m quite used to solitude in the wilds but, no, an empty house is not what I enjoy.”

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He’s also been known to respond personally to fan letters and maintain relationships with people who admire him. He has no iPhone or email address and instead prefers to communicate by handwritten letter.

Appreciating small things

It seems to me that the natural world is the greatest source of excitement; the greatest source of visual beauty; the greatest source of intellectual interest. It is the greatest source of so much in life that makes life worth living

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Forget lifespan, everyone is focused on extending their healthspan: meaning, the number of years you live in good health

So what tiny tweaks can you make to your daily routine to extend a fulfilled life? Health writer Rosie Fitzmaurice tried some out.

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The research

One year

Analysis from the University of Sydney found that getting an additional five minutes of sleep, two minutes of moderate to vigorous physical activity and an additional half-serving of vegetables per day could lead to an extra year of life.

A decade

Getting seven to eight hours of sleep each night, more than 40 minutes of moderate to vigorous exercise each day and following a healthy diet, were traits associated with almost a decade of additional lifespan.

Daily tweaks to make

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Daily spoonful of beans

One large study found that an intake of 20g of legumes daily may reduce a person’s risk of dying in any given year by up to eight per cent. 

Fibre at breakfast

Most people in the UK eat around 16–18g fibre a day but 30g is recommended.

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Olive oil shots

One major study found those who ate the most olive oil (more than half a tablespoon a day) had a 19 per cent lower risk of death from any cause.

Daily tweaks to make

4There are benefits to eating an early dinner when we’re insulin sensitive and strolling afterwards to help digestion.

5Vigorous intermittent lifestyle physical activity – rather than structured exercise -ccould reduce the risk of a heart attack.  

6Strength training is still important and just 30 to 60 minutes each week is associated with a 10 to 20 per cent lower risk of death. 

7Balance training improves neuromuscular co-ordination and proprioception, which are critical for preventing falls.

Rosie puts this to the test

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She had a helping of beans daily and loaded her breakfast with nuts, seeds and berries.

Fitzmaurice swapped butter for olive oil, had dinner two hours earlier (around 6pm) and did one-minute bursts of exercise throughout the day.

She also practised her grip strength through dead hangs at the local park and brushed her teeth on one leg to improve balance.

The verdict

I can’t predict the future, but it’s true that making a few microtweaks to my weekly routine have had a surprisingly uplifting effect on my mood. As the world feels so utterly terrifying, taking control of the small things feels like therapy.

ROSIE FITZMAURICE, HEALTH JOURNALIST FOR THE i paper

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Is napping an
invaluable part of the day or an unproductive hour?

To find out how to feel better, brighter and bushy-tailed, we asked Russell Foster, a
professor of neuroscience at
the University of Oxford, everything you need to know about napping.

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How long should we nap for?

For Professor Foster, the ideal length of a time for a nap is just 20 minutes and certainly no longer than 30. 

“You don’t want to do is fall into deeper sleep, because then recovery from that can leave you groggy,” he says.

Is there an optimum time of day to nap?

Napping too late in the day is warned against.

An early-afternoon nap of around 20 minutes can improve your cognition during the second half of the day.

If you have a nap later on, you can push back your sleep pressure, which means the longer you’ve been awake the greater need for sleep, at night.

As long as you’re getting the sleep that you need to function optimally, that’s the main thing.

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How much sleep does a person need?

Sleep is like a shoe: one size doesn’t fit all.

Oversleeping on days-off or sustaining your waking day with caffeine and other stimulants are signs of tiredness.

Not everybody needs eight hours of sleep; it’s variable, dynamic and individual. And will vary over a lifetime depending on the season.

Other things to know

It doesn’t matter where you physically nap as long as it feels right and you’re comfortable. You can create the right environment by making it dark, calm or using a smell like lavender.

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Generally speaking, napping is probably a metric that you’re not getting the sleep you need at night, says Professor Foster. “But don’t beat yourself up over it. A short nap, if it improves the second half of the day, is fine”.

What is causing damp? And how to fix it

In addition to being generally unpleasant, living in a damp property can lead to structural and health issues if left unaddressed for long periods of time.

Read on to find out the industry expert advice on how to cut the risk of damp forming in your home…

Start with your windows

Don’t keep them closed.

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Regularly opening windows – even on cold days – can improve the ventilation inside and decrease the humidity of the room.

Also wipe away the condensation that has formed overnight with a microfiber cloth to remove the dampness.

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How to reduce the risk of damp

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Dry clothes in the bathroom

Avoid drying clothes in bedrooms or living rooms without airflow.

Avoid curtains over radiators

It can trap heat behind the fabric, reduce room warmth and cause condensation on windows.

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Nudge your furniture

Large furniture items placed tightly against cold walls can trap condensation, leading to mould over time.

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It could be the age of your home

Close to 90 per cent of UK homes with solid external walls lack insulation, making them vulnerable.

The airtight design of some new builds helps with energy efficiency but can trap moisture if ventilation isn’t properly managed, says Chad Bragg, chief technical officer at insulation company SuperFOIL.

How to reduce the risk of damp

Clear clothes out

Clothing that is packed too tightly in a wardrobe traps humidity, especially if it is slightly damp.

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Heat strategically

If the heating in your home is reduced in temperature by just two degrees, humidity levels will increase by 10 per cent.

Keep lids on pans

While cooking it avoids releasing moisture into the air. A good cooker hood is most effective.

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Pay attention to insulation

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Poor insulation creates ‘thermal bridges,’ or cold spots, where the new structure joins the old house. These cold junctions act as magnets for condensation, causing localised mould, heat loss, and discomfort. 

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How to fake your way to being organised

Do you have your life together? Is your home tidy and clutter-free; your diary neatly colour-coded; your to-do list full of satisfying ticks?

If these questions feel like a personal attack don’t worry. We asked the put-together experts for their secrets.

Get to know your brain

The real magic is rarely in the system but in how your brain likes to work.

If you love analytical tasks, try making spreadsheets.

Set reminders for the things you usually forget.

Use the Notes app for the ideas you think of in the shower but never remember when you get to do it.

But if you are more likely to structure your day around how you’re feeling, a calendar isn’t the best option.

How to fake your way to organisation

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Make it easier

If you hate folding, change your storage style. If you’re always forgetting your keys, put a sign by your door.

Make a launch pad

Keep a small tray or basket in the hallway for your can’t-leave-home-without essentials.

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Use technology

After meetings use an AI tool to note down what you have to remember as a brain dump.

Create new habits

The one-touch rule

If you put your shoes straight on the rack as you take them off, instead of kicking them onto the floor and moving them later, that’s one touch. If you hang things up rather than tossing them onto the ‘bedroom chair’ it’s another one-touch win.

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Talk to yourself out loud

This verbal anchor helps you remember what you have decided to do and cuts down on mental drift.

The 300-second challenge

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Give yourself five minutes to deal with one overdue chore or task.

Using seconds rather than minutes creates urgency and gives your brain a novelty hit.

Try it when putting the laundry away, making a phone call or reading an overdue email.

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Make it easier for yourself

Use completion cues

Drop a marble in a jar or move a sticky note across a board each time you complete a task.

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Support your future

Write down where you left off and the next small task to tackle to strengthen your control over every day demands.

Ask for help

Consider seeking support from loved ones, neighbours, colleagues, community groups or professionals.

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Eight tips for
combating loneliness

Ree Young, works for Mind mental health charity as a ‘befriender’ – this means working with people aged 50 and over in the city of Leeds – who may be struggling with social isolation or loneliness.

Young advises these people on how to get social, even when you don’t want to. Here are her tips.

How to combat loneliness

Social isolation affects us all

27%

of adults reported they felt lonely always, often or some of the time in data published by the Office for National Statistics in 2024.

7%

reported that they felt lonely always or often.

How to combat loneliness

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Stay socially active

Check out what’s going on at your local community centre or learn something new to make connections.

Use technology

Look up old friends online, or use video-call features to connect with those who don’t live nearby.

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Get creative

Why not learn how to crochet, write short stories, plant a herb garden or play the ukulele in a group? 

Adopt a pet

They can provide companionship, a listening ear and a structured routine. They can be good listeners and stroking them can make us feel calmer and more at ease. Even the smallest pets, like fish, can bring us joy and a sense of purpose.

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How to tackle loneliness

Join a death cafe

They are safe and inclusive spaces for people to be curious about death in a supportive environment. 

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Try citizen science

It’s a great way to feel part of a community, while also contributing to worthwhile initiatives. 

Explore your faith

Try attending services if spiritual practices are important to you. They can offer strong support networks and open doors to new people.

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Seek professional help

If you are unsure what support is available, speak to your GP. Research local charities and find out what services they have to offer, and try accessing local befriending, group or peer-support services.

There is nothing shameful about asking for help.

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The six reasons your partner might cheat

Cheating is still the number one cause of divorce, and one in five Brits admit to doing it.

But what are the main drivers of infidelity?

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Why your partner might cheat

They want a way out

Sex and relationship therapist Cate Campbell says exit affairs are one of the three “big reasons” she sees.

Fear of commitment

This often happens when a person doesn’t feel good about themselves, or have a fear of being found out.

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A mid-life crisis

Transitions like moving house, new jobs or becoming parents makes cheating more common.

Why your partner might cheat

They’re getting too close to a colleague

This dynamic is usually an unhappy man who confides in a woman in a work context, and it switches from a supportive friendship into an affair.

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Tonight is just for the two of us‘Although problems with sex are very common, very few people come for help,’ says one GP (Photo: Getty)

They want something new in bed

Desires change – consiously or not and people may believe they want something different, or to experiment.

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They feel lonely

Nobody stays the same in a relationship – and if we’re not communicating that to each other, it can be disconnecting.

Susie Masterson, a relationship therapist, says when people feel undervalued, or stretched too thin in day-to-day life, they can look at their relationship and realise it isn’t filling the gaps.

How to recover from an affair

Infidelity doesn’t have to be the end of a relationship

Psychotherapist Esther Perel says in her book The State of Affairs that affairs can actually save a relationship, by forcing us to address deep-rooted issues and come back stronger.

Campbell says couples should be having conversations about infidelity and what it means to them.

 “Often it’s not the affair that ends the relationship, but the fallout – and the way it’s managed. Which is why it’s useful to get some therapy if you can,” she adds.

Lofty top-heavy plants such as delphiniums might need a cane per shoot. This can turn into a bit of a barricade, so consider thinning the shoots by half – you will get better flowers, too, on the remaining stems.

The “Chelsea chop” also helps with taller plants. Shorten stems by up to half with shears or secateurs, so that the plants are less tall when they reach flowering, and need less staking while flowering is delayed, often with more, if somewhat smaller flowers. Typically aim to chop about half a clump or half of the clumps to spread the flowering period by several weeks. The more you cut off, the more flowering is delayed. Typical candidates are Anthemis (cota), Echinacea purpurea, Eupatorium, Helenium, perennial Helianthus, Hylotelephium (Sedum), Phlox paniculata, Rudbeckia, Symphyotrichum (aster) and Solidago.

Harlequin ladybirdLadybird enjoy snacking on aphids so are good friends to have in the garden (Photo: RHS/Georgi Mabee)

Keep the hoe moving to catch weeds while small – it is astounding how fast they can grow as the weather warms and the soil remains moist, setting seeds in just six weeks. Chop off perennial weeds such as ground elder and bindweed to keep them weak, so they can be more easily winkled out in autumn, when the flowers won’t be spoiled by the unavoidable disruption.

Thwart perennial weed clumps such as couch grass by covering with cardboard held down with some mulch, perhaps hosting a container where watering is convenient. The now-cleaned ground can be planted in autumn.

Aphids – blackfly or greenfly, multiply amazingly – each female carries a daughter ready-formed inside and that daughter has her own offspring within, ready to be launched on to tender, protein-rich new shoots.

Being defenceless, they are soon devoured by the larvae of hoverflies, lacewings and ladybirds. Adult ladybirds do good work, too. The speed of aphid demise is a marvel to see. In almost all cases, aphids will be sufficiently knocked back to cause only modest, acceptable damage and loss of crop.

Where some intervention is needed – to save a broad bean crop, for example – apply a material that works by physical effect such as SB Plant Invigorator, which leaves no residues. Remember that aphids are at the bottom of the garden ecology food chain and plentiful aphids eventually feed through via bigger insects and spiders to birds, bats, frogs, hedgehogs and other garden wildlife.

Summer stretches out before us and plants sown in May or June will have three months of good growing conditions to be ready for winter. Biennial flowers including Canterbury bells, foxgloves, hollyhocks, lupins and sweet Williams are classic choices best sown in a spare space in the veg plot.

Wallflowers and pansies tend to go to seed if sown very early, so leave these until after mid-June. Thin, water and feed these plants ready to set out in their final positions in September, to flower in 2027.
Finally, bear in mind that the season is running a little earlier than usual, so June tasks may well fall due in May.

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