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Have you ever wondered why children often do exactly what you’ve told them not to do picture this two small children are caught in what appears to be a fight at school when questioned they innocently claim they’re just playing mother and father this anecdote vividly demonstrates the Paradox of parenting showing how children mirror
Behaviors they observe at home both good and bad children are like sponges soaking up everything around them they learn by watching and mimicking consciously or unconsciously absorbing the words and actions of their parents this includes the unfortunate instances of destructive Behavior like breaking things at home the usual parental
Response is to say no but here’s the catch saying no could trigger a rebellious streak pushing them to do precisely what they were told not to do so the challenge for us is to find alternative ways to guide them to channel their abundant energy into constructive activi ities children
Consciously or unconsciously mirror the actions and words of their parents this realization places a significant responsibility on us as parents how many times have you said no to your child today it’s a simple question but it hides a complex reality you see the power of know is a double-edged sword on
One hand it’s a vital tool in shaping Behavior setting boundaries and ensuring safety on the other it can inadvertently spark curiosity rebellion and even lead to the very actions we’re trying to prevent this is because children are explorers by Nature their minds are constantly probing testing and learning
So when we tell them not to do something it’s like placing a big red shiny button in front of them and saying don’t press it the Allure of the Forbidden can become irresistible instead of using no as our default let’s think of it more as a last resort provide Alternatives
Channel their energy into constructive activities let’s guide our children towards what they should do rather than focusing on what they shouldn’t remember saying no can sometimes lead to the opposite effect Instead try guiding them towards what they should do did you know about the time when Sigman Freud lost
His child in a park this incident serves as a poignant reminder of the power of the proverbial forbidden fruit Freud the father of psychoanalysis found himself in a situation where he couldn’t locate his child in a park upon asking his wife he learned that she had specifically
Told the child not to Venture near a certain area of the park Freud understanding the Allure of the Forbidden suggested they search that exact spot and sure enough they found their child there this story underscores the importance of positive reinforcement and the need to fill children’s Minds with constructive thoughts rather than
Negation after all curiosity is a natural part of childhood a driving force that compels them to explore and learn as Freud’s Story shows children are naturally curious it’s our job as parents to guide them towards positive experiences not just warn them about the negatives