I enjoy gardening, more the process and the exercise over the accolades. One thing that I’m most proud of is most of my garden is from propagated plants or shaped plants from the original owner of the 20 year old house.
Of course, I would like more color if anyone has suggestions for perennials. I typically don’t like to waste money on annuals. This year I added new organic soil to try to help with more color from my perennial plants that didn’t bloom a lot this year. Specifically, my Lantana and my Oleander.
Although I do shape the larger bushes, I don’t like the cooker cutter shapes of boxes or perfect circles.
My husband does not like the yard. He wants to hire a professional landscaper to design and redo it. (With what money!?!)
Do I get a new landscaper or a new husband?
by ArtArrange
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I think it looks great!
If I put a ton of time and effort doing all my own landscaping and my partner said “It looks like shit, I want to hire a professional” id be extremely upset.
It’s beautiful! He sounds like a downer that just wants to shit on your happiness tbh. And girl he’s broke too..? Kick him out!
I have to ask what specifically he does not like about the yard and design?
In my personal experience I have found that one person in the relationship is the gardener, and the other gets to sit back and appreciate the beauty – That’s not always the case, some couples are into gardening together.
By anyone’s standards my yard is close to perfect and resembles something that could be in a magazine. Today I pruned back all of my grasses and even the way I prune them back looks beautiful. Everything is healthy and loved in my yard, hence everything grows the way I treat it and take care of it. My perfection is somewhat obsessive but I like it so I don’t care if what other people think and it’s a stress outlet. It took years and years for my yard to evolve the way it has so it’s not like it happened overnight… Lots of trial and error, planting failures, etc.
My wife appreciates everything I do and enjoys the beauty of everything I’ve created. She doesn’t lift a finger which is just fine with me because I prefer all to keep their mitts off my yard 😅.
In my humble opinion, somebody would like to modify or change something, they should have a plan and present it as such.
Throwing criticism or making statements that they just don’t like something is vague and tells me that they don’t know what they want either – which is why he likely wants to hire a landscape architect of sorts.
Your yard is beautiful and the way you take ownership of the plants like they are your kids tell me a lot about your passion for gardening. Being passionate about gardening is an evolutionary process… As we experiment with plants in our yards, we learn what we like and learn what we can change. We also learn about layering plants, what species would accent different places in our yard, and so on. Constant gardeners are always evolving, learning, and are open to criticism and new ideas as long as it’s constructive.
Tell him to stay in his lane unless he has a plan or something productive to contribute to the yard design. I’m sure if he took up woodworking you wouldn’t criticize his projects or tell him he needs to find someone to help him build something…. That would be insulting and inappropriate.
My two cents.