A man has been left questioning whether his Tinder date is a ‘red flag’ after she invited him over to help her weed the garden – and people are torn over the issue
A man took to Reddit after his first date experience(Image: Johner Images via Getty Images)
A man has been left baffled after his potential date suggested he pop round to help her tackle the weeds in her garden. Thereby, leaving him questioning whether this might be a warning sign.
The 25-year-old guy explained how he’d connected with a 24-year-old woman on Tinder, and after chatting for some time, he’d plucked up the courage to ask her out. Her response?
She wondered if he’d fancy lending a hand with her garden weeding, insisting it was a calming pursuit that would allow them to become better acquainted.
Nevertheless, he’s concerned this might be a warning signal and remains uncertain about whether to accept the unconventional invitation.
Turning to Reddit for advice, he wrote: “She’s extremely pretty and we have a lot in common and I’m really interested in her.
“She has some pictures of her gardening in her profile and I was asking her questions about that so it didn’t come out of nowhere.
“The conversation was going really well so I asked if she wanted to get to know each other in person, she said yes, and asked if I wanted to come over and help her weed her garden.
“I said ‘Haha, as a first date?’ and she responded saying yes, it’s a relaxing activity to talk and get to know someone, plus she could really use some help with it since we’ve had a lot of rain lately.
“I honestly don’t care what the first date is and don’t mind weeding, would happily do whatever to get a chance to spend some time with her, but I’m wondering if it’s a red flag that she’s kind of asking me to help her with a chore as a first date?”
Whilst the majority of users encouraged him to embrace the date, others insisted it represented a significant ‘green flag’ and a lovely shared activity.
One user commented: “It’s not a red flag for her to invite you to a place where she’s comfortable. Your perception of this as a chore is yours and you’re free to decline. She doesn’t see it as a chore.”
Another user said: “Sounds like she’s looking for someone who takes joy in gardening and doing chores – which is a valuable asset in a partner.
“Especially when you can do it together and have fun! I would love to go on that kind of date but this is a clever way for her to figure out compatibility early on. If this doesn’t sound like a good time to you I doubt you two will hit it off very much.”
A third user remarked: “I think it’s a nice date if you knew her more personally. My only question would be do you normally invite every person to your home on the first date?
“I would be more cautious about inviting a stranger over on the first day. But aside from that if you’re the first or if it’s a one-time thing it may be ok. It’s just strange to me.”
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